How Parents Connect with Their Children

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Developing a bond of love and a good relationship with children requires that parents do some things on their own part in the area of training the children. The children, in turn, respond directly and/or indirectly to the action of the parents by being responsible too. Some of the things that parents do in demonstrating their responsibility to their children include the following;

They teach their kids more with their actions than with their words

Research has shown that kids generally learn more through observations and their experience in the world than through teaching by words. As a result, responsible parents teach their children more through the things they do and the good examples they set. Rather than ask that they do things, they show how it should be done. When they make mistakes, they own and acknowledge their flaws and do not pretend to be perfect or act it. They are real and do not claim to be superhumans.

They provide commendation and discipline

Responsible parents know the importance of meting out discipline when a wrong act is committed by their kids and giving commendation(s) for good deeds. Getting a gift for your little boy or girl after doing a good job goes a long way in teaching them what kinds of deeds they should engage in and which ones they should not engage in. In addition, responsible parents are able to clearly determine how much correction or praise is suited to an occasion and avoid over-emphasizing issues.

They criticize their kids less and encourage them more

Parents have the responsibility to build confidence in their kids. The self-confidence of the kids is developed by the encouraging and motivating words of the parents. On the other hand, constant criticism erodes the self-esteem of kids and demoralizes them. It can also result in withdrawal and secretiveness on the part of the kids. Conversely, constant appreciation and encouragement of the good qualities and children’s strengths exude positivity and confidence.

When their kids are in the wrong, responsible parents do not engage in a comparison of their kids with other kids. Rather than make their kids feel inferior, they affirm their value and individuality and condemn the wrong act instead of the person.

They spend quality time with their kids and encourage conversations

Reports suggest that it matters more the quality of time that parents spend with their kids than the quantity of time they spend. Quality time promotes the development of parent-child bond that enhances understanding. During such periods, kids and parents engage in healthy dialogues that improve their relationship. Such conversations bring about the feeling of worth and importance in the children seeing that their views are being heard. They also develop the art of expressing themselves in the process.

Responsible parents do not pretend to be with their kids when they actually are not. Whenever they are available for their kids, they dedicate all their attention to them. Besides, responsible parents encourage kids to have their own thinking process and develop their own personal ability to make their own decisions.